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If you have just entered the online dating scene and want to
date black men, you are probably full of enthusiasm and curiosity. All
the prospects of getting to know new cultures and traditions, when dating someone
from another race, can definitely be very exciting. There is a danger hidden
into this excitement though: forgetting what you want from dating. Both women
and men make this mistake quite often. When we fall in love with someone we
will do whatever it takes, in order to be with them. Sometimes we even tend to
lose ourselves and mirror the person we have a crush on. Have you ever ended up
at a football match, having no clue how you got there? Matching denim jackets
anyone? That's what we are talking about! Finding love is great, but being
honest is sometimes more important.
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Be honest to yourself
What is it that you are looking for right now? Do you want a
boyfriend? A potential fiance? Do you just want a casual date and some fun? No
matter what it is that you are looking for, keep that always in mind. If you
meet someone who is interested in a casual, “friends with benefits” style of
relationship and you want to get married, keep looking. Unfortunately, we
sometimes believe that if we love the other person hard enough, they will
eventually be on the same page with us, when it comes to dating. This is seldom
the case though. White women looking for black men look for different
things and that's OK. But what is it that YOU are looking for? If you do not
have a definite answer and you are more flexible or choose to go with the flow,
that's alright too. Still it is good to define some boundaries that you
wouldn't like to cross. This will help you avoid being taken advantage of.
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A relationship takes two to happen. This means that you need
to be honest not only with your self, but with your date as well. You might
find someone very attractive but not be able to give them what they are looking
for. If you like them just because they have a gorgeous body but they are
looking for romance, do not trick them into believing that this is what you are
looking for as well. It can be tempting some times, but people will end up
being really hurt and you will feel guilty about it.
Not speaking up is also lying
Yes, that's true. Lying is not just about giving false
information about someone. It is also about letting people make the wrong
assumptions and letting people believe that you go along with their choices.
Again, you need to remind yourself that you cannot change others, unless they
want to change. If your date does not want a committed relationship and you do,
but say nothing about it, he is going to assume that you are fine with an open
relationship as well. You might be afraid that you will come across as pushy,
if you let him know what you want, but this is not the case. Yes, he might
choose to stop seeing you, since you do not want the same things. But that is
the right thing to do. Otherwise you would both waste your time.
Being honest about your life
Apart from what you want in a relationship, it goes without
saying that you need to be honest about your life in general. Never give false
information about your marital status, job, income, mental state. People who
are interested enough to date you deserve to know who you really are, in order
to decide if they want to spend more time with you. You deserve the same, of
course!
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